Embrace Your Favorite Self | How to Find Grace in Every Role

I recently came across a message that really spoke to me, and it’s something I’ve been reflecting on ever since. The message was simple but profound: “Go be your favorite self.” We’re often told to strive for our “higher” or “best” selves, but “favorite” has a different kind of power. It’s a reminder that it’s okay to embrace the version of myself that feels right, comfortable, and joyful in the moment—no matter which role I’m inhabiting.

The Pressure to Be the Best

As a wife, I often feel the pressure to be the best partner, always supportive, loving, and attentive. Society has ingrained in us this idea that we must constantly strive for perfection in our relationships. But what if I allowed myself to be my favorite version of a wife? The one who loves deeply but also needs space, who enjoys quiet nights in as much as adventurous date nights out. By being my favorite self, I leave room for grace, for understanding that I’m allowed to ebb and flow, to enjoy the balance of giving and receiving love. It’s about being present in the moment and cherishing the connection I have with my partner without the weight of unrealistic expectations.

Motherhood: Redefining Perfection

In my role as a mom, the expectations are high. We’re told to be nurturing, patient, and ever-present. There’s a societal narrative that mothers must be perfect—always there, always giving, never faltering. But some days, my favorite self is the mom who takes a break, who lets her kids see that she needs time to recharge, that it’s okay to not have all the answers. In these moments, I’m teaching my children that it’s important to honor their own needs and feelings, too. By showing them that even moms need a moment of self-care, I’m imparting a valuable lesson about self-compassion and balance.

Authenticity in Relationships

In my relationships as a friend, daughter, and sister, I strive to be the rock, the one everyone can rely on. There’s comfort in being dependable, but it can also be exhausting. Yet, my favorite self is often the one who shows vulnerability, who shares her struggles and isn’t afraid to ask for help. It’s in these moments of authenticity that deeper connections are made, that we see each other for who we really are, and that grace can flourish. By being my true self, I give those around me permission to do the same, creating a space where we can all be our favorite versions of ourselves.

Embracing Self-Care as an Empath

As an empath, I feel deeply for those around me, often putting their needs above my own. It’s easy to get lost in the emotions and experiences of others, to the point where I forget to take care of myself. But being my favorite self means practicing self-care, acknowledging when I need to step back, and not feeling guilty for prioritizing my well-being. It’s a way of showing grace to myself, recognizing that I can’t pour from an empty cup. By taking the time to care for myself, I’m better able to support those I love in a meaningful and sustainable way.

Finding Joy in Work and Volunteerism

At work and in my volunteer roles, the drive to excel, to be the best, can be overwhelming. There’s a constant push to achieve, to be the top performer, to never falter. But when I choose to be my favorite self, I focus on the tasks that bring me joy, that align with my passions and strengths. I remind myself that it’s okay to set boundaries, to say no when necessary, and to approach each responsibility with the energy and enthusiasm I have at that moment. By doing this, I find more fulfillment in my work, and I’m able to give more of myself in a way that feels authentic and true to who I am.

The Freedom of Being Your Favorite Self

The concept of being my favorite self is liberating. It’s a gentle reminder that I don’t have to be perfect, that I can choose to be the version of myself that feels most aligned with who I am right now. Whether that’s the fun-loving, carefree self, the introspective and quiet self, or the driven and ambitious self—it’s all valid. So, today, I encourage you to embrace your favorite self. Let go of the need to be the best or the highest version. Instead, find joy in being the you that you like the most in this moment. Allow yourself the grace to change, to grow, and to find comfort in the ebb and flow of life. After all, being your favorite self is more than enough.